Welcome to our site by Justan and Bree. Our site is dedicated to J Douglas who counseled us after becoming Christians.
J Douglas gave us the tools to love each other effectively using Christian principles.
We want to share our experience with you to help improve communication in marriage.
We would like you to share it in Church, Sunday School or
Christian talks on marriage. The tools provided are a gift to you and your marriage.
May God bless you in life and love.
Thank you
Justan and Bree
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Share this Site!Intimacy
Feelings rise within me to please your desires. I am in love with you, a wonderful friend. I trust you completely, you are the one for me.
My hand touches you; you take my breath away. We talk and you listen. We talk and we hold one another.
Feelings rise within me to please your desires. I am in love with you, a wonderful friend. I trust you completely, you are the one for me.
You feel my breath on your neck, take your time and we’ll be one. God is love, enter into my heart. God, bring us closer to you.
Let me love like you, your love completely. Dedicated to let me love like you. Your love completely, dedicated to.
Let me love like you, your love completely, dedicated to. Touches you, you take my breath. We talk and you listen.
We talk and we hold one another. Feelings rise within me to please your desires. I am in love with you, a wonderful friend.
I trust you completely, you are the one for me. My hand touches you; you take my breath away. We talk and you listen.
We talk and we hold one another.
By Robert Macs Art LLC (C)
My Needs
What are my needs? Ask me what I need. What are my needs? Ask me what I need. Write it down, know me.
Write it down, know me. Is it these receiving compliments, comments about positive traits, appreciation for work done at home or at a job, avoidance of criticism? Is it this receiving a hug, a love you note, a text greeting, a loving smile, holding hands, companionship in recreational activity, part till together, together. Is it this getting help with cooking meals, washing dishes, doing laundry, house cleaning, childcare, pet care? Is it this spending quality time with children, teaching modeling values, sharing responsibility for children’s well-being? Is it this having a partner who provides an income, having a certain standard of living, having a partner who stays within an agreed-upon budget, willingness to reveal facts about past and present events, as well as hopes and plans for the future? Is it these having discussions, discussing topics of mutual interest, willingness to listen to each other, giving and receiving undivided attention? Is it this, such as weight, clothing style, hairstyle, and hygiene? Is it this having intimacy, touching, affection, compassion, empathy, meeting needs, enjoying each other? On my knees, ask me what I need.
On my knees, ask me what I need. Write it down, know me. Write it down, know me.
By Robert Macs Art LLC (C)
Don’t Criticize
Baby don’t criticize me
Baby don’t you love me
Baby don’t criticize me
Baby don’t you love me
If you love me
you will embrace me
hold me tight
tell me it will
be alright
I depend on you
you are my rock
my safe place
in my life
Baby don’t criticize me
Baby don’t you love me
Baby don’t criticize me
Baby don’t you love me
If you love me
you will embrace me
hold me tight
tell me it will
be alright
I depend on you
you are my rock
my safe place
in my life
I want to be
in love with you
I want to be
one with you
If you love me
you will embrace me
hold me tight
tell me it will
be alright
I depend on you
you are my rock
my safe place
in my life
I want to be
in love with you
I want to be
one with you
I want you
to be the one
who leads
us in love
I want you
to be the one
who leads
us in love
I depend on you
you are my rock
my safe place
in my life
I want to be
in love with you
I want to be
one with you
I want you
to be the one
who leads
us in love
I want you
to be the one
who leads
us in love
Robert Macs Art LLC (C)
Listen to Me
the biggest complaint
from women about men?
Men don’t listen!
Men don’t listen!I’ll never forget
My wife had asked
me something while
I was watching football
looking at the papershe said you never
listen to me. Well,
I repeated word for word,
what she had just said.So why did she think
I was not listening?
It could be because
I was not giving her
direct eye contact.Gentlemen, when your woman
is talking to you,
make sure you give
direct eye contact.
It shows you’re listening.I always told guys you might
at least look at her
when she’s talking so
she believes you’re
actually listening.But seriously, yes,
give her direct eye contact
and let her know that
what she has to say
is important enough
for you to give
her your attention.Three most common
mistakes women make.She will try to improve
his behavior or help him
with unsolicited advice.She will not acknowledge
what he does for her
but will complain about
what he hasn’t done.
This will make him feel
unappreciated and
taken for granted.She will correct his behavior
and tell him what to do
as if he were a child.Robert Macs Art LLC (C)
My Best Friend
I finally found
someone that I
could tell
everything to,
He stills loved me.
He has never
disappointed me
He has always been
there to listen
to speak to me.
You may ask,
is it in a voice
that He speaks?
It’s in His Word,
through music,
through others
that know Him
through my quiet
time with Him
when I am still,
knowing the heart
of my best friend.
God loves us
so much
let us
trust in Love
trust in God
Let Him
be our best friend
Let Him
close companion
Let Him
be our advisor
I finally found
someone that I
could tell
everything to,
He stills loved me.
He has never
disappointed me
He has always been
there to listen
to speak to me.
let us
trust in Love
trust in God
Let Him
be our best friend
Let Him
close companion
Let Him
be our advisor
Robert Macs Art LLC (C)
Speaker Listener
Let talk
I’ll be
the speaker
you be
the listenerLet talk
I’ll be
the speaker
you be
the listenerLet talk
I’ll be
the listener
you be
the speakerLet talk
I’ll be
the listener
you be
the speakereven if we
disagree
let’s hear
each out outeven if we
disagree
let’s hear
each out outLet talk
I’ll be
the speaker
you be
the listenerLet talk
I’ll be
the listener
you be
the speakerlet us
respect
one another
let us
call on
God to
give us love
and understandinglet us
respect
one another
let us
call on
God to
give us love
and understandingLet talk
I’ll be
the speaker
you be
the listenerLet talk
I’ll be
the speaker
you be
the listenerLet talk
I’ll be
the listener
you be
the speakerLet talk
I’ll be
the listener
you be
the speakereven if we
disagree
let’s hear
each out outeven if we
disagree
let’s hear
each out outRobert Macs Art LLC (C)
Attitude
Michael is a kind of guy
you love to hate.
He’s always in a good mood
always has something
positive to say.
When someone would ask
him how he was doing,
he would reply,
“If I were any better,
I would be twins!”
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day,
Michael was there telling
the employee how to look
on the positive side
of the situation.
Seeing this style really
made me curious, so one day
I went up to Michael and asked him,
“I don’t get it.
You can’t be a positive person
all the time.
How do you do it?” Michael replied,
“Each morning I wake up and
say to myself,
you have two choices today.
You can choose to be in a good mood, or
you can choose to be in a bad mood.
I choose to be in a good mood.
I choose to count my blessings
all of them
Thank you for this morning
thank you for this day
thank you for the people
my family, friends
I choose to count my blessings
all of them
Thank you for this morning
thank you for this day
thank you for the people
my family, friends
Michael is a kind of guy
you love to hate.
He’s always in a good mood
always has something
positive to say.
When someone would ask
him how he was doing,
he would reply,
“If I were any better,
I would be twins!”
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day,
Michael was there telling
the employee how to look
on the positive side
of the situation.
Robert Macs Art LLC (C)
The Demand
There will be times
you will need to request
something you need.when your request
turns into a demand,
you have now let the other person
know that you don’t care
how he or she feels.Your demand has just
cut off communication lines.
A demand is no longer asking
if the person can meet your need,
you are telling them that
they have no right to refuse you.Communication has ended and
major withdrawals from
the love bank has taken place.Demands also make it less likely
that the other person will
ever want to meet that need.If you force them to
meet the demand now,
you are giving a strong signal
that you’re unconcerned about
their feelings or concerns.if you’re going to be self-centered
in this request, what other areas
will you abuse them next.A wiser approach would be to ask,
‘I’m really needing help
with a situation I’m dealing with and
I could really use your help.Do you have time now or
when would be a good time
for you to help me?”
This approach shows
you desire help from them and
also allows them to
help when it is convenient.Teach me patience
let me not be anxious
trusting love
trusting God
is what’s needed hereTeach me patience
let me not be anxious
trusting love
trusting God
is what’s needed hereTeach me patience
let me not be anxious
trusting love
trusting God
is what’s needed hereBy Robert Macs Art LLC (C)
Tell Me
Women often wonder why when they were dating the guy would talk to them about their life and their family. Probably because he wanted to get to know her. Finding out about her family is important in knowing more about her background and understanding more about her programming.
Also, the more he knows about her, the more he will learn about how to attract her. Then they get married. Now this is not always true, but once he has convinced her to marry him and they get married, he doesn’t seem to need the conversation time with her.
He set out to win her or maybe in an unconscious way to conquer the prize he wanted. And now that they are married, he doesn’t have to work on it anymore. Now he’s looking for a new prize to gain or capture.
Often this will be his career, a hobby or something to save money for like a boat, car or a new set of golf clubs. He fails to understand that his willingness to spend time in intimate conversation was a major reason she became so attracted to him. With this now removed from her daily life, he is making withdrawals from her love bank.
He has no idea that he is risking losing her love. Also, he is not realizing that he is making her very vulnerable to a guy who is willing to spend time in conversation with her. While that relationship just starts with conversation, it may lead to an affair.
Because females are relational creatures. They want to spend their life with a man who cares deeply about her. She wants to be known by him and to know him.
That only comes in time through intimate conversation. It doesn’t stop after marriage. It must be a daily tell me about your day.
Tell me about your work. Tell me about your life. Tell me how you feel.
Tell me about your day. Tell me about your work. Tell me about your life.
Tell me how you feel. Women often wonder why when they were dating, the guy would talk to them about their life and their family. Tell me about your day.
Tell me about your work. Tell me about your life. Tell me how you feel.
Tell me about your day. Tell me about your work. Tell me about your life.
Tell me how you feel.
By Robert Macs Art LLC (C)
Man Cave
Wanting You
No Way
Bree’s Testimony
J Douglas Counselor
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Love Based Relationships